I know many describe Tantra as the ‘weaving together.’ If I had to describe Tantra in a word it would be ENERGY. Tantric Sex is all about getting in sync with yours and your partners energy. It’s about slowing down and being in the moment and at one with the energy.
The energy is so powerful that it is possible for you to experience an energy orgasm. This is an all over body orgasm which happens without actually physically ejaculating. Like I spoke about in last week’s blog on Mindful Sex, you need to let go of an orgasm being the end-goal of sex. This might sound counter intuitive to some, but it really is the secret to having incredible sex that leaves you speechless!
Life Force Energy
In my sex therapy and advanced training programs I show my clients how to have an energy orgasm. It’s all about getting your mind and body in sync. An energy orgasm comes from allowing your life force energy to flow freely through you and it’s a wonderful experience. A lot of the time we suppress our life force energy as our mind likes to be involved and control our sexual experiences. I teach my clients how to free themselves of the mind chatter which is holding them back, and get in touch, really get in touch, with their own body.
To practice an energy orgasm on your own for the first time, I always recommend doing a little bit of preparation. Have a nice hot bath or shower first, set the mood with clean sheets, dim lighting and a candle or some incense if you have it. This is all about setting the intention and getting your mind and body in a relaxed state. As long as you are comfortable, you can be either sitting or lying down when you practice.
Breath plays a big role in your energy orgasm and it’s something so simple and easy to practice. By using deep, slow breaths you can start to dissolve tensions in your body. By using circular breathing (no breaks in between the inhale and exhale) and focusing your attention on your genital region, you will start to experience a build up on energy. This build up of energy literally happens without you actually touching your genitals.
Moving the Energy
By focusing on the pleasurable feelings building up in your genital region you can then start moving this energy around your body. To intensify the energy and add more layers of pleasure you can begin to squeeze your pelvic floor muscles on every inhale and draw the energy up your body.
Don’t be afraid to make sounds, after all it’s a pleasurable experience and the more you let go and surrender to the sensations the more powerful the energy orgasm will be. Our sounds alone can be a big turn on. Just like sound, don’t be afraid to move your body. Feel free to arch your spine with each inhale and relax with each exhale. It’s about allowing your body to move freely without your mind telling it what to do.
The time it takes to reach your energy orgasm will vary from person to person, but around 30 minutes is average. Don’t be disheartened if you don’t get it the first time round. It can take a few practices to get there, especially if it’s something you have never tried before its best taught in person with a professional.
If you are interested and would love some extra guidance on how to have an energy orgasm, I’d love to help. I have helped hundreds of clients experience energy orgasms so you would be in expert hands! Get in touch for a free chat to find out more.