FAQS
If you are chasing a quick thrill, a fantasy or someone to entertain you, to get off … that would be you looking for an escort.
Escorting is fantasy-led. The client chooses the experience. The session revolves around fulfilling a request.
Intimacy Coaching is growth-led. We build sessions around development. Growth-led means we work with your body of course … your mind/body and most importantly your nervous system … not your cravings.
So to explain this more …
If you rush, we slow you down.
If you grip, we teach you to relax.
If you perform, we teach you to feel.
If you dissociate, we bring you back into your body.
Usually, each session builds on the last. You’re not purchasing a moment. You’re building a foundation.
And the outcome?
Skill … you learn how your body actually works.
Awareness … you understand your triggers, patterns and habits.
Control … you can regulate arousal instead of being ruled by it.
Capacity .. you expand how much sensation, intimacy and connection you can hold without shutting down or rushing.
So the focus isnt on getting something from us. The focus is on building something within you. So you wouldnt be purchasing an experience to satisfy a sexual desire.
With Intimacy Coaching … you enter a structured process designed to help you grow and experience great capacity for pleasure.
Intimacy Coaching is for:
Erection Dysfunction,
Premature Ejaculation,
Delayed Ejaculation
Performance anxiety
Low confidence
Emotional disconnection
Feeling numb
Everyone’s circumstance is different so our approach will be different. Some offerings are theory, online, practical, some hands on practical, simulated practical but lets be crystal clear we assess what you actually need … not what you think you want.
There’s no one-size-fits-all … because you are uniquely you.
The way I work is never cookie-cutter. I draw on different modalities (sometimes just me, sometimes with amazing practitioners I’ve trained), so what we do together is shaped around you.
The only way to know if you and I are the right fit is to book a Consult.
That’s our time to:
• See if working with me (or one of my colleagues) feels right for you
• Explore which session or program might be the best match
• Map out the when, where, and how of moving forward together
You’ve got a few options:
Consult via Zoom or phone — $169 (wherever you are in the world)
Consult in person — $260 (for those who prefer face-to-face energy)
or
Consult/Practical $350 (including table work)
Bookings are usually secured with a deposit so once it’s locked in, it’s yours.
Learning from home is easy and very effective. Especially beneficial for those with confidence issues, as you can start practicing exercises on your own first. The most common questions I get asked are:
Q. Do you visually stimulate
A. No. I coach/teach practices for those wanting to last longer, feel more confident and be a better lover. I don’t offer a Webcam service … Your gratification is not my concern and would be counterproductive.
Q. How do the online courses work? Don’t I need to practice with someone?
A. Sure, (great) sex with another human is definitely the goal. But first you will need to practice things on your own in order to feel comfortable with your body and the practices and increase your confidence. Just like you don’t jump in the ocean before learning how to swim, it’s best to get a few coaching lessons and solo practice time on the clock before you try to get down and jiggy with it. If change is required, knowledge of how to change is essential. And it starts with you!
Absolutely.
Many of the men who come to see me hold positions of responsibility in their professional and personal lives. Discretion and confidentiality are always respected. I usually say … ‘what happens within this space remains within this space’
Some clients appreciate having a short recorded segment of the guided practice so they can revisit the learning later and this very much helps. If this interests you, feel free to mention it when booking and we can discuss whether if feels appropriate for your session.
Some recordings may contribute to a private learning used to help other men understand this work and if you wish to participate with your clear consent I do offer $50 off. Please note … privacy and your identity is always respected and protected
Q. Do I get to physically ejaculate (and release semen)?
A. There is no goal in Tantra – so no chasing an outcome.
B. We encourage some to you to have Energy Orgasms
Q. How is that different to a ‘normal orgasm’?
A. Part of our practice is the tantric method of expanding your sexual energy around your whole body, not to just release it as you would normally but rather to open yourself up to full body pleasure. You will be guided through this process.
Q. What do you mean by ‘normal’?
A. Most men have only ever experienced an anatomically ‘normal’ orgasm. A build up in the groin with a release. Very transactional, and often very quick. To us describing the comparison between a normal or energetic orgasm is like the difference between junk food and a gourmet meal. There is also a difference between ejaculation and orgasm – while ejaculation may be a byproduct of orgasm, it is not absolutely necessary to achieve an orgasm and in fact men often report the best orgasm of their lives through the energetic tantric process.
Q. Why do you offer Energy Orgasm?
A. Energetic orgasm is not only deeply satisfying, but also a reconnection with the body and the syncing of the physical and spiritual aspects of self. Most men, unfortunately, have been conditioned to strive for physical ejaculation above the sexual experience, and this often leads to a disconnect with partners, selfishness in the bedroom, expectation and ultimately performance issues. The common train of thought is “I’ll feel good once I cum” – leading to transactional, selfish sex and short-lived gratification. Sure, you’ll feel good for a bit. But what’s the ripple effect of this kind of exchange? I’m an advocate of helping men expand their knowledge and sexual horizons. Keep doing what you’re doing, and you’ll keep getting what you’re getting – and you’ll miss all the delicious, mind-blowing orgasmic opportunities life has to offer.
Q. So is a normal release or orgasm not good for you?
A. There’s no denying that the high after orgasm feels pretty great, and sometimes a quick release is all that’s required to reinvigorate a man’s lust for life (for a minute). The problem with this is that, like anything that feels really good, it can become addictive. We crave that warm fuzzy feeling and seek it out as a quick fix to make us feel better about a situation or circumstance rather than revering it for the sacred and blissfully special experience that it is. It’s a vicious cycle that I’ve seen way too many times. However, I challenge you to open your mind to what is possible when your mind/body is in sync. When you focus on the journey, not the destination, the results can be truly mind-blowingly amazing. Imagine feeling what you feel in that one moment, in a single location with traditional orgasm, reverberated and sustained through your whole body. By learning to move one of the highest energies frequencies – sexual energy – throughout your body, you can achieve an out of this world, full body orgasm that will change your life.
SNAPSHOT:
Normal Orgasm
~ Feels good for a short time. Like a sneeze.
~ Feels good in your groin
~ Depletes your life force energy
Energy Orgasm
~ Not only feels good but can put you in a long-lasting altered, blissful state of awareness
~ Feels divine throughout your whole body
~ Rejuvenates your body, promotes cellular upgrade and can help heal, balance, release emotions, eliminate emotional, energetic and physical blockages, overcome sexual issues and much more.
Contact me for a session and see for yourself.
What we dont do is force or perform for an outcome.
Ejaculation may or may not occur naturally during a session however it is not the focus.
What’s important to understand is that I gently lead the experience. The men who gain the most from this type of work are those willing to let go of expectation, trust the process, allow the experience to unfold and the body to respond naturally.
Tantra unlike a typical “rub and tug” experience that focuses on a quick release’ … encourages non-judgment, so if ejaculation occurs there will be no shame. With that said, if you’re specifically seeking a release … I would suggest considering the services of an erotic massage. I could give you some tips 😉
CLICK HERE TO READ MY BLOG ON ‘WHY MEN CHASE THE HIGH OF EJACULATION’ you may find it veeerry interesting.
That’s fine.
In person sessions are not the only way to learn, and I now offer a full range of online tutorials. This is also a good way to start to get a feel for if we wish to work/journey together.
I have clients all over the world, so if my services interest you please don’t hesitate to reach out to me via sms, email or by filling in the form here to organise a time to discuss.
Arrive a few mins early so you’re not rushing or stressed.
Arrive freshly showered.
Avoid heavy alcohol beforehand.
Avoid Viagra or similar medications before your session.
Avoid a heavy meal right before the session.
Switch your phone to silent so you can fully relax.
Let go of expectations .. every experience unfolds differently.
There is no performance required so have in your mind to allow yourself to be guided.
Often this helps if I was to advise you that I’m not a Counsellor nor am I trained to deal with trauma. I can however work in conjunction with therapists. I help mainly men, some women and couples if they are on the same page. The men I assist usually are those lacking in confidence, not much experience, premature ejaculation, erection difficulties, helping also those who are wanting dating advice and some who want to learn about Tantra. I do have a new sister website for women and couples … Rebel Magick.
I want to reassure you that what we teach you, we take seriously so, it doesn’t just work like that. Before we move into any practical session, we do need to have a short interview (Consult) with you first. This helps us understand exactly where you’re at and what you’re looking for. Think of it like crawling before you walk and walking before you run …we want to make sure you’ve got the right foundations rather than rushing ahead without the groundwork. It’s all about progression: laying down the basics first, then layering into deeper work.
Keep in mind, I don’t necessarily offer every type of session myself, my focus is on the areas I specialise in. However, I have trusted colleagues who work in different ways, and at times I may suggest that you see them if I feel their style would suit your needs best. That way, you’re always guided by the right person … whether that’s within our sessions or with a trusted referral.