Porn Overload and Younger Men
In today’s hyper connected world, the accessibility and widespread availability of pornography is at a crazy high. The impact it may have on teens and young men is quite concerning.
While the topic of online porn is complex and multifaceted, it is essential to address the impact it may have at a crucial time in their sexual and relationship development. Let’s face it pornography often portrays exaggerated and unrealistic depictions of sexual encounters; random meetings quickly lead to instant sex with over the top moaning and rather ridiculous facial expressions. I find this fake version a big turn off and hit the mute button or more likely keep scrolling. Porn categories such as choking, gagging or fisting, once considered extreme or fetish, are now somewhat standard. No wonder young men can develop distorted perceptions of intimacy.
A lovely lady I know reported her not so compatible first date recently. The “nice guy” she met online invited her out for dinner and there was some chemistry and flirting. Instead of a sexy kiss goodnight – he tried to bite the lip and firmly pushed her up against a wall and wanted to put his hands on the neck. His rough approach was a total misread of the moment and the sudden end to their date.
This scenario is such a go to Hollywood sex scene (frantic wall slamming – her skirt hitched up) wham bam both satisfied in less than a minute ? You can hardly blame the clueless guy when it appears to work for the Hemsworths ..
If forming an intimate loving relationship or engaging in genuine satisfying encounters is a priority .. it’s a great idea to limit your porn exposure.
Endless explicit content has a brainwashing effect that desensitises you visually and physically. Like chasing that next rush a man with unhealthy porn habits will need increasingly explicit, violent, taboo or bizarre videos to reach orgasm. Like any addiction such as gambling or alcohol it’s just one more … but it never is..
Research suggests that extensive pornography consumption impairs men’s ability to perform sexually – to get aroused or maintain arousal. Definitely something I have seen with my clients and becoming more common.
I’m not against porn however receiving such constant high stimulation in the brain – when doing the real thing with a partner it leads to mind and body disconnection. This progresses to anxiety, doubt and mind chatter and ED. Check out my earlier blogs on ED and porn. Porn is like junk food, would you eat it every day?
Society as a whole needs to participate in a solution or expect to see a growing culture of misogyny, disrespect and unhealthy power dynamics.
It’s integral we start healthy conversations and learn to bring balance and awareness to this modern dilemma that is not going away. Luckily my programs can be part of the solution to overcome this very real problem.
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