Sometimes guys feel guilt, anxiety and stress as a result of their experiences with PE. which then becomes a major contributor to ongoing PE. It’s like a downward spiral. Arriving too early is more common than you may think and there is also a lot of stigma associated with talking about these sexual challenges.
Did you know that males are actually wired to cum quickly? So if you have ever, or are currently suffering from PE, know that is not your fault and you are definitely not alone in this.
As a sex coach who has helped many guys with PE I understand that it can be an extremely embarrassing situation that has a major impact on your self-esteem, confidence, sexual relationships and life as a whole.
But the good news is PE is quite easy to overcome when you have the right techniques and tools and an experienced coach. All we need to do is some fine tuning using proven methods and to educate you further on this subject, to produce amazing results.
First let’s take a closer look at PE; what is it, and what causes it and most importantly what I as a professional, experienced sex coach can do to help you make it a thing of the past?
So What Is PE Exactly?
PE short for “Premature Ejaculation” and it is exactly that ‘ejaculating, cumming or arriving too early’. It is called Premature as it happens before anticipated by you and your partner and often occurs before, or very soon after, penetration..
PE is a very common issue with men of all ages and happens in two forms:
Primary or Life Long PE – This is pretty self-explanatory – the issue has always or frequently been part of your sexual experiences. Ejaculation is almost always very quick during any penetrative sexual activity.
Secondary or Acquired PE – This is the type of PE which develops in men. They notice that they are starting to ejaculate a lot quicker than desired and are not sure why.
What Are The Main Causes?
The causes can be physical and/or psychological.
The psychological causes can include guilt, stress, nervousness and anxiety. As discussed earlier, these become reinforced each time PE occurs which can ultimately lead to depression and create a downward spiral in your relationship and life in general. Ultimately you will probably decide just to avoid sex altogether.
The physical causes can include erectile dysfunction, a topic which will be added to my blog very shortly, medical conditions such as high blood pressure, alcohol and drug abuse, and also the effects of some prescription medications.
What Treatments Are Available?
We live in a world highly governed by quick fixes. Medications and drugs are normally prescribed and I am sure you have heard of anti-depressants designed to inhibit orgasms and various gels, sprays and creams which desensitize, as treatments for PE, all of which carry, sometimes dangerous, side effects.
I believe these treatments are completely and utterly WRONG in every respect!
Luckily, if you suffer from PE, there are better alternatives that will assist you to make a complete transformation naturally. In fairness, a lot of medical professionals do suggest counselling, couples sex therapy and sex coaching, so in that respect, we are on the same page.
If you are looking for a natural approach please read further. While there is a whole lot more to overcoming PE than I can set out in this blog, the information that follows is a good start.
Once you read my tips below, if this sounds like something you would like to delve deeper into, please be sure to get in touch for a free discovery session, where we can discuss your issues and develop an individual approach best suited to your situation.
Tips to minimise the onset of PE
Tip 1 – Breathe
The key to managing stress is relaxation and relaxation starts with controlling your breathing. Put simply, if you can’t control your breathing you don’t have much chance of lasting longer in bed.
Creating a special place for you (and your partner) is ideal so that you are relaxed which is then positively associated with having sex.
Control your breathing – take deep, slow breaths and as you exhale feel all the tension in your body release. Regularly practice this controlled breathing to relax for 5 – 10 minutes at a time and when you can relax you can begin to incorporate the other strategies below.
Tip 2 – Relax and be completely present
Getting into a zone where your mind and body are completely relaxed is not easy at first but if you work at this regularly you can maintain this relaxed focus over your entire body rather than just focus on your genital area. Breathe slowly and deeply alone or with your partner and be sure to stay in the present moment.
If you are practicing with a partner it is important to remain in sync with their body and this does not mean their erogenous zones, I mean their entire body and if you are practicing alone, likewise stay focused on your whole body and not just your genital area.
When you are new to this, fear of ejaculating too quickly can trigger thoughts and fears but just re check yourself and remain calm and these thoughts will quickly be replaced with confidence based, positive thoughts.
Tip 3 – Edging
Once you have mastered your controlled breathing and you are feeling in a very relaxed state, begin pleasuring yourself and if with a partner them too, but do this very slowly. It is paramount that you take your time with this, remember we are conditioned towards goal orientated sex meaning that orgasm is touted as “the everything”. But let me tell you that this is not the case.
Edging is simply allowing yourself to become more and more aroused as you pleasure yourself but right on the edge of ejaculation you prevent yourself from doing so. You continue to edge so your body get used to a longer period of sexual arousal before ejaculation.
Practicing Tantric edging is very helpful if your main goal is mutual intimacy where heightened states of erotic pleasure are enjoyed however, in most cases edging is easier when done alone so you can maintain your focus on your body being in a relaxed state, rather than being a slave to the thoughts in your head.
Also know that edging can take quite a bit of practice to work out your arousal limits and also practice restraint but with training and assistance this technique can be very powerful to rewire new pathways.
Tip 4 – Steer Clear Of Porn
Porn is designed for instant gratification and encourages you to cum quickly!
Indulging in too much porn can become an unhealthy addiction which also trains your mind in a negative manner around sex and relationships. Erotic stimulation is certainly not the way to go if you want to cure your PE. Porn is devoid of intimacy or connection and is not real life. As you transform yourself into a better lover you won’t need it anymore and it will naturally fall away. Replacing one habit for another can take time but it is totally possible.
Tip 5 – Education, Training and Coaching
I am here to help and guide you to success. I have helped many guys just like you overcome all types of sexual challenges, hang ups and confidence issues including erection issues, orgasm control and training for even those suffering from severe PE.
I assist clients of all ages over 18 years. If you are an older gent who wants to get back in the saddle, please know that I have also assisted men over 70yrs its never too late.
Imagine going from lasting 2 minutes to over 30 minutes with ease!
Rebel Glea is a qualified and experienced Sex Coach and Tantric Practitioner based in Brisbane with effective natural treatments for premature ejaculation and with many tricks up her sleeve to help you enjoy the sex life you desire and deserve.
So why not start with my fun quiz so I know where you are at then book your free 10 minute discovery session. You will be so glad you did! You owe it to yourself to take that first step in becoming the best you can be in and out of the bedroom.
So why not start with my quiz so I know where you are at, then book your free 10 minute discovery session. You will be so glad you did! You owe it to yourself to take that first step in becoming the best you can be in and out of the bedroom.