Could Trying Harder be Part of the Problem? I don’t often talk about delayed ejaculation … and honestly, I don’t know why not. It’s a conversation worth having, particularly when I see just how much pressure some men put on themselves to reach that finish line. When ejaculation isn’t
If you’ve found yourself Googling “tantra massage” or perhaps asking Chat … chances are you’re curious about what actually happens behind the closed door. And you’re certainly not alone. Search online and you’ll find everything from ancient tantric philosophy and spiritual practices through to sensual massage, erotic services and a whole
Aparigraha There’s a yogic principle I absolutely love called Aparigraha. A special soul in my world, I work closely with recently reminded me of this word, and the moment she said it I thought, Yes! That is exactly what I’m constantly trying to explain to people about Tantra. Aparigraha is
One of the saddest things I hear from couples isn’t… “We don’t love each other anymore.” It’s this. “We don’t really know how to reconnect.” The love is often still there. The friendship is still there. But life has become so busy that closeness has quietly slipped away. If you’re
Have you ever looked across at your partner and thought… “What happened to us?” Not because there was a huge fight. Not because someone stopped loving the other. But because, somewhere along the way, life quietly got in the way. The conversations became shorter. The hugs became less frequent. Date
Yes sure some things are meant to be quick. A text saying, “I’m here.” A takeaway coffee. A dash through the supermarket for one thing… and somehow still leaving with ten. And of course …Two-minute noodles. Intimacy? Hmm … Most men wish that wasn’t on the list. Yet every week, I
Recently I had a guy try to go under the radar to say he was seriously worried about his size. Eye roll here and not for why you think. I read between the lines as there was too much emphasis on size in his message and of course the message
In the tantric traditions, the penis is often referred to as the Lingam, a Sanskrit word that is commonly translated as “wand of light” Yet despite being called the wand of light many men arrive believing their wand is not shining any light and that it is broken. I wrote
I wrote this blog to provide a little more clarity around Intimacy Coaching for men, as its one of the most common questions I get asked. “What is Intimacy Coaching?” Of course, I always guide those to the FAQ page where I go a little more indepth but here are
Whilst much of my work is with men through Intimacy Coaching and Tantra, lately I have felt a growing pull toward creating more curated experiences for women too. If you have seen glimpses of the Aligned Rebels world I am building, you may have already noticed this shift. A movement
I felt called to write this as lately I’ve had a few clients experience some really beautiful wins around confidence. Watching someone stand a little taller, try something out of their comfort zone, reconnect with themselves, or simply begin believing in themselves again is one of the reasons I love this
A return to the body. A shift from doing… to being. There’s a whole lot of noise around Tantra. For some, it’s been reduced to something purely sexual. For others, it feels abstract… almost out of reach. And somewhere in the middle, the real essence often gets lost. Because Tantra, at
Why it holds us back from intimacy—and how we begin to soften it Lately, I’ve been speaking with quite a few clients who feel held back when it comes to intimacy. Not because they don’t want connection. Not because they don’t feel desire. But because something in them… hesitates. There’s
It’s something many men experience, but very few talk about. And interestingly I hear a version of the same sentence quite often from clients. Something along the lines of “This never seemed to happen when things were casual” Many men tell me that when intimacy is relaxed, playful or without
Recently I was asked a simple question: How did you end up doing this work? Its a fair question! The truth is my path into this work didn’t begin with a clear plan. It began with curiosity and it unfolded. Once upon a time … I grew up in a
Theres a moment in some men’s lives where they stop fully enjoying sex … believe it or not! Not because they don’t want it nor because they aren’t attracted. However its because somewhere along the way sex quietly becomes a test or something to get right. Am I lasting long
Valentine’s Day Isn’t About Roses. It’s About Presence. Spelt with ‘ce’ at the end. But I’m sure you picked up on that! I don’t know about you but with Valentine’s Day coming up … I feel that the day has a way of turning connection into performance or some sort
Intimacy isn’t just about sex. It’s about closeness. Access. Energy exchange. And that’s exactly why the Year of the Snake has been so revealing. Snake energy doesn’t rush … It watches … It feels. It notices where things are slightly off long before the mind wants to admit it … Annoyingly so. The
