Recently I had a guy try to go under the radar to say he was seriously worried about his size. Eye roll here and not for why you think. I read between the lines as there was too much emphasis on size in his message and of course the message came through …. do you want to see it.
Man … If I had a dollar for every unsolicited dick pic I’ve received over the years, I’d probably be writing this blog from a tropical island. But here’s the interesting thing Im just going to say this…
After more than 30 years working with men, I don’t think most men send a dick pic because they’re arrogant. I think many send one because they’re hoping for something much deeper. Yes annoying as it is. Its most likely they are wanting …
Validation.
Excitement.
Or perhaps they’re thinking…
“If she sees what I’ve got, she’ll want me.”
The irony? What most people are actually looking for isn’t approval of their anatomy. It’s approval of themselves.
The Real Question Isn’t…
“Should I send a dick pic?” The real question is…
Why do I want to send one?
Are you hoping to impress? Testing the waters? Trying to fast-track attraction … do you want me?
Or simply responding to someone who has genuinely invited that kind of flirtation? Pfft usually not!
The answer matters far more than the photo itself.
Confidence Can’t Be Photographed
One of the biggest misconceptions I see is that attraction comes from what you show.
In reality, attraction is more often created by how someone feels around you. Confidence. Humour. Playfulness. Presence. Respect. Emotional intelligence. Those qualities will always outlast the perfect camera angle.
So… Should You Ever Send One?
Hmm Sometimes. BUT only when there’s mutual attraction, trust, and it’s genuinely wanted, it can be playful and exciting … however just know that most find it offensive. When it’s unexpected or sent in the hope that it creates attraction, it often has the opposite effect.
The difference isn’t the photo. It’s the connection that already exists.
Here’s What I Think…
Many men spend more time worrying about what their penis looks like than learning how their body actually works! Imagine if the energy spent taking the perfect photo or worrying about size … it was invested in understanding your arousal, improving control, building confidence, and learning how to become a more attentive lover.
That’s where the real magic happens.
Which brings me to my own version of
REBELS OFFICIAL DIC PIC RATING SYSTEM
So lately whenever someone send me an unsolicited pic, they don’t get a rating as such … they get this.
*PHOTO: NOT RATED
CONFIDENCE: LETS WORK ON THAT
POTENTIAL: HUGE
Then I send them a link to my Masturbation Training Ebook. Not because I’m interested in judging their anatomy nor getting into a back and forth ….no way. But honestly I’d rather help them understand their body and build genuine confidence than hand out a score.
To me that’s far more beneficial for them and that’s exactly why I created my Masturbation Training eBook.
This isn’t about masturbation for the sake of it. It’s about understanding your body, retraining unhelpful habits, improving awareness, building control, and developing genuine confidence that carries into every intimate experience. Because the most attractive thing you’ll ever send into the bedroom isn’t a bloody photo … its knowing yourself.
If you’re ready to stop chasing validation and start building real confidence, my Masturbation Training eBook is the perfect place to begin.
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