A Step By Step Guide to Sensual Tantric Massage
Before I get into guiding you. Here’s 5 Fabulous reasons to give your partner a Sensual Tantric Massage
1. It Deepens Intimacy Beyond Words
Tantric massage bypasses the mind and goes straight to the heart and body. It creates a space of presence where lovers feel seen and held without needing to talk.
2. It Awakens Sexual Energy Without Pressure
Instead of rushing toward performance or orgasm, Tantric massage invites exploration without expectation, helping both partners relax into sensual connection.
3. It Breaks the Routine & Rekindles the Spark
It’s a ritual, not a quickie. Making time for this sensual art keeps your connection fresh, exciting, and infused with desire —especially when life gets busy.
4. You Learn to Give & Receive Fully
Many of us struggle to receive and some struggle to give. Tantric massage teaches both partners to surrender, trust, and open, creating a balance of giving and receiving in your relationship.
5. It Unleashes Dormant Desires & Sensitivity
When you slow down and tune in, new levels of pleasure and arousal become possible. Your whole body becomes an erogenous zone, not just the genitals.
PART I
PREPARE THE SPACE (Set-Up)
• Clean & warm the room
• Dim the lighting, light candles
• Use oils (I love warmed up MCT coconut oil)
• Play soft, sensual music
• Lay a soft towel or sheet on a bed or massage table (plenty of reasonably priced tables out there)
• The giver wearing something loose and the receiver can wear pants this can build anticipation
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STEP 1: ATTUNE YOUR ENERGIES
• Set an intention: e.g. “to connect deeply,” “to awaken pleasure” or “show up for your partner”
• Begin with eye gazing for approx 1-2 minutes more if possible.
• Sync your breathing (inhale together slowly, exhale slowly)
• Gently place your hands on their heart and lower belly/sex centre —feel into their energy having soft eyes, slow breathing
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STEP 2: WARM-UP TOUCH
• Use feathers, silk scarves, or fingers to lightly awaken their skin
• Touch everywhere except genitals—
• Use long, flowing strokes—very slow, like pouring honey …. pour the oil in your hands and move it slow with your breath all over your partners body.
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STEP 3: MORE ON THE MASSAGE
• Use both firm and sensual strokes—palms, fingertips, forearms
• Massage each area fully before moving on
• Whisper affirmations or breathy praises as you touch: “Your body is gorgeous or say something that is genuine that you are sensing about their body…”
• For women: use gentle circles around the breasts, not directly on nipples
• For men: stroke the chest and heart space, tapping into emotional intimacy
• Let your touch be slow, reverent, and affectionate
Mmm … let’s pause right there. Youve had a little taste but we are only just getting started.
Let your breath deepen and the anticipation simmer … stay tuned lovers for PART II for far more juicy details.
Hugs lovers xo